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Our plan

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“You will keep whoever’s mind is steadfast in perfect peace.” Isaiah 26:3

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Jesus’ own disciples saw a man born blind and asked, “Who sinned, this man or his parents?” Jesus answered:

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Then and now, people look for someone to blame. Jesus didn’t. He saw a person God had a purpose for.

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Autism and ADHD are differences in how the brain is wired and develops. They’re neurological, which means they show up in how a person processes sound, light, touch, attention, language and social cues. They are not caused by sin, bad parenting, witchcraft, or a lack of faith.

A meltdown is a brain overwhelmed, not a demon. Flapping, rocking or humming is often how a body calms itself, not something to cast out.

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Yes, Scripture takes spiritual warfare seriously (Ephesians 6:12). But treating a child’s brain wiring as a spirit can bring deep harm: shame, fear, and sometimes abuse in the name of deliverance. Pray for your child, not against who God made them to be.

If anyone pressures your family into a “deliverance” that frightens or hurts your child, you can say no. Protecting your child honors God.

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Then hand them Make Room for Every Kid.

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Seeking an evaluation, therapy or medication isn’t a lack of faith. Luke was a physician. Paul told Timothy to take something for his stomach (1 Timothy 5:23). See Luke Was a Doctor.

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Father, thank You for making my child exactly as You did. Forgive us for the times we’ve blamed, hidden or felt ashamed. Give us wisdom, patience and the right help. Silence every lie that says this child is cursed. Let Your works be revealed in this life. In Jesus’ name, amen.

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Many dads quietly grieve the future they pictured: the ball games, the conversations, the “normal.” That grief doesn’t mean you love your child less. Bring it to God honestly. He can hold it.

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Men are often wired to fix things. This isn’t a problem to fix. It’s a child to know. Swap “How do I fix this?” for “How do I connect with him today?”

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Side-by-side often works better than face-to-face. Build something, drive, walk, play their game, learn their special interest. Ten minutes inside their world beats an hour of lectures.

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Parents of kids with extra needs carry a lot of strain. Be teammates, not opponents. Trade off breaks so you each get rest. Ask your wife: “What’s one thing I can take off your plate this week?” See Roommates or Soulmates?

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You don’t have to have it all figured out. Your Father in heaven is patient with you the way you’re learning to be patient with your child.

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Pick one: learn one fact about their favorite thing · say “I’m proud of you” out loud · take a 10-minute walk together · pray over them while they sleep · ask another dad of a different kid to coffee.

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IEP Meeting Prayer Pack

Before the meeting

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My top 3 concerns

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Make Room for Every Kid

A short guide for pastors and children’s ministry leaders, from a family who loves our church.

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Thanks for being my leader. Here’s how my brain works best:

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“I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” Psalm 139:14

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