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Talk about it early and often: debts, spending styles, giving, saving. Many couples fight more about money than anything else, usually because they grew up with different money stories. Make a simple budget together, and decide your “talk first” number.

Try Enough together.

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Make a list of every household task, then split it based on time, skill and what each of you hates least. Re-check it every few months. And say thank you for the boring stuff.

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Your new household comes first now. Honor your parents, but make decisions as a couple. See The Long Table.

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Whose family for Thanksgiving? Christmas? Decide together, early, and kindly tell both families. Start at least one tradition that’s just yours.

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It will happen, and it doesn’t mean you married the wrong person. Fight the problem, not each other. No name-calling, no bringing up the past, no threatening to leave. Use The Repair Kit.

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God designed married love as a good gift (read Song of Songs!). Talk openly and kindly about expectations, be patient with each other, and keep affection alive outside the bedroom too: hugs, kisses goodbye, holding hands. If something is painful or hard, a Christian counselor or doctor can help.

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Pray together, even if it’s short and awkward at first. Find a church home together. Serve together. A couple that seeks God together has a third strand holding them.

Try Third Strand.

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“On time,” “clean,” “a lot of money,” “a quiet weekend”: you each brought definitions from home. Play Unspoken Rules before they become fights.

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Premarital and newlywed counseling isn’t only for couples in trouble. It’s like a tune-up. Ask your pastor for a referral. And if you ever feel unsafe, see the help box below.

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Your love story doesn’t need likes to be real. 💛

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